Archive | December, 2010

Things I wanted to get off my chest before the New Year

31 Dec

Somebody PLEASE tell Kandi to stop wearing those godforsaken shirts that look like vaginas. I’ve ranted on twitter since the start of the RHOA season. She needs a friend on that show that will tell her she needs to step it up. Does she see how Sheree glams up for her one-on-ones? Get it together Kandi.

The internet was kind enough to have removed or simply ignored Kandi’s shirts, categorizing them as pornography. But any viewing of a RHOA marathon will piss you off as much as they have me.

I really had a problem with Rihanna this year. Including her invading my brain in the morning.  I really felt some kinda way when I woke up with “oh nana, what’s my name” kept playing on repeat as I woke up. But, alas. I guess it stems from the fact that I really had a problem with Rihanna on Eminem’s last hit song, The Way you Lie.  Now nearly two years ago this February, we lambasted Chris Brown for his domestic violence attack against Rihanna. Both suffered publicly. So, when Rihanna comes back singing / cosigning on a song with Eminimen that condones and encourages violence against a woman, or your partner for that matter, I was more than a little pissed off. These are the lyrics specifically that I had a problem with:

If she ever tries to fucking leave again
I’mma tie her to the bed
And set the house on fire

Simply inappropriate. And this is when I start looking at Rihanna with a side-eye for the role she played in her situation. I’m not saying it’s right….but did she learn anything from the situation. Like….it’s not right to condone domestic violence in your music, right…..

And briefly, the #HoSitDown award goes to…..Keri Hilson. Take your halfway ’empowering’ Pretty Girls Rock somewhere while you expose your vagina for the world to see in those trashy videos. You’re not my hero. You’re talented, but I’m offended that you think I’m a gynecologist.

I'm not qualified, nor do I want to inspect your ladyparts Ms. Hilson

And the #DoBetter award goes to Fantasia. Sorry boo.

Somebody needs to help Fantasia out.


#MusicMonday The Alison Carney + CityLife Project

27 Dec

I’ve met Alison Carney once, and sat in the audience of her performances a few times. Quite a few times. Enough to call myself a fan. She’s got a voice, and it should be celebrated. But this post isn’t about Alison singing, it’s about a partnership between her and CityLife, a new social networking medium that has recently launched in Washington, DC. {} Touted as a Social Saving Network, CityLife is a reward program and a travel guide, using coupon distributions, news letters, e-blasts and virtual tours to better connect businesses with consumers.

Alison and CityLife have recognized that artists of today, be they musicians or visual, have truly embraced the digital age by completelyimmersing themselves in the latest in technology, specifically social media. At the same, these new media have also embraced today’s artists by giving them an array of free tools – creating a synergistic relationship that allows the two the spread their messages organically, albeit technologically.

Enter The Alison Carney + CityLife Project, a new and exciting music-based viral partnership where Alison will engage the Washington, DC area (DC, MD, VA) music community, specifically aspiring producers, for a three month (January, February, and March of 2011) competition that will be hosted on CityLife’s social media platform.

Starting Wednesday December 1, aspiring producers will be able to upload beats to with the hope of Alison selecting their music which, if chosen at the end of each month, will be released the following month as a “digital-only” exclusive on and Overall, the project will allow Carney to show her love of and support for her hometown and its music community while also providing a powerful way of fostering local talent.

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It wouldn’t be a MusicMonday if i didn’t hit you off with a link for new music from Alison. Check Japanese Candy

Alison is freshly signed to EFMusicGroup – The Expressive Frontier – a boutique label.  And here are links to her in the cyberworld.

My Bucket List

16 Dec

The premise: You’ve learned that you have 6 months to live. How will you spend that time and make the most of your life?

Here’s my bucket list. Hopefully, I’ll get to most of these before a hypothetical diagnosis forces me to.

Visit the Seven Wonders of the World

Cruise the Mediterranean


Find my biological parents

Go Skinny-dipping

Drive cross-country

Publish a book

Become fluent in 3 other languages (Spanish,French, Italian) and have the opportunity to use those skills.

What’s on your bucket list?

If I didn’t have a time limit, (you’re gonna die in 6 months) here are some more things that I’d set out to accomplish:

Read the Bible in its’ entirety; take Breakdancing classes; be a good skateboarder; learn to snowboard well; take tasteful nude photos.

If this bucket list seems small it’s because I am developing a larger list of goals for regular life activities.  This post has been an exercise for the 31 Day Life Reset Challenge on

Bucket List Goals

My First time on a Board

Anything without Works is Dead

13 Dec

The adage goes, “Faith without works is dead.”  Well, let me remix that, anything you strive for is dead in the water without dedication and an unshakable discipline.  But don’t fret, as I do, you don’t have to devour the whole thing, take small bites off of the pie. Thanks to my best friend for reminding me of that.

The Happy Black Woman’s #31DayReset is helping me to take a look at my life and the values that I hold.  In a post earlier this week, I shared the summary of a life assessment and shared the values that I adhere to in my life. Below is Day 4’s assignment.

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There’s Got to Be Something Wrong with Me

10 Dec

No real crisis over here, but seriously – I haven’t remotely been excited about the fact that T-mobile recently sent me a new phone. Those of you close to me or that follow me on twitter know that I’ve been having phone issues lately. Problems sending emails, pictures, receiving texts. Don’t make me get started on the trackball. Epic #FAIL! Basically, making the phone useless, or pretty close to it. But since I was still under warranty, they sent me a new phone and not just the same model, but they upgraded me to the newest Blackberry to come out! Whooohoo!

But I’m not that excited.

Nor am I excited about the Michael Kors handbag still sitting in a box from Rue La La. And I got a good deal on it. I should have ripped that out of the box. But I didn’t!

Maybe I’ll save that excitement for the weekend!

What does have me excited is the following quote:

Don’t move the way fear makes you move. Move the way love makes you move. Move the way joy makes you move. -Osho