Black Adoption – Stacie Turner’s Story Speaks to Me

3 Sep

Stacie Turner with the XOL Teens at the Bon Voyage Event

Stacie Turner’s openness about her adoption is so couragous for me. As an adoptee myself, this is a lifelong internal battle that most people will never understand.
It can make for a lonely existance on this world. It makes you question whether you can truly feel love.

The Candy Report posted this photo related to an African American Adoption Story on CNN; Photo Credit :

An adoptee may have life questions that will never be answered. Your true identity may never be fully known. That’s frustrating. Records may be sealed (as it is in the case of South Carolina adoptions.) And what about the feelings of your adoptive family-certainly one wouldn’t want to offend or seem ungrateful. It’s  complicated.

{On a side note, that’s why recent ancestry projects don’t really capture me. The region of the world that I’m from is less intriguing that the people I would want to reach out and touch. Truly.}

Fellow Adoptees, Our Tribe

I have very special relationships with people that share this very personal information about themselves.  We seem to bond. We empathize with one another about love and loneliness, and can share information and updates on our personal journeys. But it is exactly that. No one journey is the same. Each demonstrates courage and can serve as an inspiration.

That’s what Stacie Turner is doing for me right now as she publicly shares her eight-year journey of learning more about her birth mother and the circumstances behind her birth. In a recent piece Stacie shared her disappointment in not learning more about her birth father and having no additional contact with her birth mother.  The product of an interracial and international couple, Stacie learned that her father never knew of her existence. A person has the right to know if they have a child or not.” asked: Are you comfortable sharing such a personal struggle with the “Real Housewives of D.C.” cameras? To which Stacie Turner reiterated so passionately and powerfully the feelings that took me a long time to come to.

I don’t have any negative feelings about being adopted, I think it’s the most selfless thing that a mother can do and the most loving thing another family could do. My search for my birth parents was something real and was happening at the time of taping. There’s no way I could do a reality show about me and not show something that’s taking up the lion’s share of my time.

With this quote, Stacie also demonstrates that the life she’s living on camera for RHODC is not fiction, she’s bringing her most authentic self, her relationship and her character to the screen. And that is most courageous of  it all.


2 Responses to “Black Adoption – Stacie Turner’s Story Speaks to Me”

  1. G. September 3, 2010 at 9:26 am #

    Well said. You need to be equally commended for sharing your story.

  2. thejasminebrand September 3, 2010 at 6:55 pm #

    Great read.

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